Misunderstandings vs. Disagreements - Know The Difference

MISUNDERSTANDINGS vs. DISAGREEMENTS - KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

What’s the difference between a misunderstanding and a disagreement?

Here’s the short version: A misunderstanding is usually cleared up with more information.

A disagreement, on the other hand, may never be resolved no matter how much you talk. In fact, talking might just make things worse—because people tend to dig in even deeper.

Here’s a hot tip: Whether it’s a misunderstanding or a disagreement, it’s wise to get an intensity reading. Ask, “On a scale of 1 to 10, how strongly do you feel about this issue?”

If they’re at a 10 and you’re at a 1, it’s not the time to be dismissive. It’s the time to listen—really listen—with empathy and care.

We see this dynamic in the Bible.

Remember the tribes of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh?

They were living east of the Jordan, outside the official boundary of the Promised Land. When they built an altar, the other tribes assumed the worst—direct disobedience against God’s command not to set up unauthorized altars.

“All the Israelites became very angry... so they met together and decided to fight them.” (Joshua 22:12 NCV)

This could’ve turned into an all-out war. But instead of jumping to battle, they talked. And the eastern tribes replied, essentially:

“The Lord is God of gods! God knows our hearts. If we’ve sinned, you can take our lives.” (Joshua 22:22 NCV)

Turns out, it was all a misunderstanding. They weren’t rebelling—they were preserving. They feared that future generations might be excluded from worship, so they built the altar as a memorial, not as a rival.

“We feared that your children might make our children stop worshiping the Lord.” (Joshua 22:25 NCV)

And just like that: no war, no bloodshed—only understanding. Because they paused, listened, and sought clarity.

So what’s the takeaway? Slow down. Ask questions. Check your assumptions. Measure intensity. Respect differences.

And most of all—lean on Jesus.

Disagreements will happen. We are all wired differently. But don’t let differences divide. Don’t let them steal your peace or your purpose.

We are not each other’s savior. Only Jesus holds that title. So don’t let people or things be your savior. Don’t give these things or other people that sacred position. If so, all things and all people will eventually fall short. It’s just true.

GOD, help us get along. Teach us to pause before we react, to ask before we assume, and to love even when we don’t agree. Forgive us for putting too much weight on others—for expecting them to carry what only You can hold. Jesus, You alone are our Savior. You alone are our peace. Help us not make idols out of people, opinions, or positions. Help us anchor our worth and rest our hearts in You alone. IJNIP amen. ♥️